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Q: Is "men splitting the bill" polemic in your country?
Is "men splitting the bill" polemic in your country? Do you girls still get upset or take this naturally?Im asking about this in a date, not in a friend's hang out.
9 years 2 weeks ago in Relationships - China
No, we won't split the bill. It is considered a down payment for sex later.
Men will offer to pay the bill. nice girls that are worth seeing, sometimes offer to pay half. i will turn them down and pay for the bill. its not sexist, its simply nice to keep some traditions.
i'm not sure what you were asking but i guessed
No, we won't split the bill. It is considered a down payment for sex later.
Yes. You mean will if a guy asks a girl to split the bill on a date will it make her upset and possibly be grounds for them to argue and at least disagree about? Then I would have to say, yes, it is 'polemic'.
It is and has always been customary in the US for the man to pay for dinner (etc.) on a date.
*I guess with same-sex dating the one who asks the other on a date pays. (I guess)
As long as you pay, girls will say that you are a good guy.
If you want to split, they will say that you are not good enough.
We don't split the bill but there are later sexpectations. We won't pay the bill in full to a female friend, only to girls we want to / can do.
Coming from a fairly civilised country, I've found that the woman can be quite willing to pay for a meal (or something else later) herself. ie, I pay one thing, she pays another. There is a sense of 'fairness' about it. And it flows over into the relationship. It's not about one getting more than the other, or having to 'pay' for it.
Splitting the bill tends to be too impractical and fussy when it comes to money - what did you have, what did I have... does yours really cost that much??? etc
MissA:
Yep, either split the bill, or take gurns to pay, and move on. No big deal.
Within my circle of friends, we take turns. Sometimes I pay, sometimes they pay.
With my friends we generally split the bill or a friend will pay. It just depends on how much cash we have in our wallets (This is with foreign friends). With Chinese friends they almost always pay (It turns into a argument of the Chinese guys insisting that they pay).
I guess on a date the guy will pay.. But hey this isn't sexist at all.. because this negatively impacts the guys.. because you know! If something negatively impacts a man it's not sexist! It only applies to women!
On the 1st date?....nope
2nd date....nope
3rd date....nope, but if you haven't made any physical progress by now, just bail.
(Not talking about the "beast with two backs", just a couple of bases)
Long term...furrgettaboutitt!
I ain't no meal ticket sugar daddy.
Equality has its pay back...
But there are no hard and fast rules, case by case basis if you please.
I once went out with some Chinese friends to dinner, non of them had any cash on them. The bill was 200 RMB, no biggie but I felt ambushed. So I said.. Excuse me, I need to use the bathroom... And I did use the bathroom, in my own house when I snuck out, they had to clean the toilets for a month to pay it off.
Then I woke up and thought this would be funny to write.
