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Q: Why he acts like that?
This Swiss guy kept messaging me, I started to grow feeling on him. Maybe he just wanted to fuck me or maybe he wants something more. I didn't know, but I wanted to find out.
So I decided to date him. We were having fun in my room, just touching and kissing but not have sexl(Like foreplay). While we were having fun, suddently he found that I didn't shut all of my curtain, he suddently got nervous and worried that the people live in front of my building can see us doing this. But between the buildings, there's a big street, I really don't think people can see us let alone see our face clearly.
He then stopped doing with me. I felt not happy with his reaction. Then I told him that I don't really care if people saw that, I told him that I used to have sex with a guy I just met in the public place.
He had this weird impression on his face and picked up this bag and left my house. Then he just disapeared and did not contact me any more.
I really don't understand men now. Why is that matter?
Some people do not want to have sex with someone who they know has sex with people that they just met.
Englteachted:
He thought he was trapping her then he realized he was the one being trapped
Viki87:
He started touching my body on our first real date(It was a second date to him). So it's weird that he cared my past.
Stiggs:
When you said that Vicki it reminded me of a friend who picked up a ladyboy in Thailand but didn't realize until he put his hand up the miniskirt.
Sometimes, there's a point where you realize you're just with the wrong person and it's time to leave.
* Not suggesting you have a p**** or anything, just that he decided you aren't his type.
Viki87:
@Stiggs, you are right, I feel sad but what can I do? I can do nothing but just let him go.
It's just so hard to find somone who really likes me.
Viki87:
Spider, I don't like myself that much sometimes. What do I have?
I am short, have no good career, have no husband. I stay at Shanghai Year after year without doing progress.
Stiggs:
Vicki.
A lot of people go through not liking themselves sometimes. That's normal from what I've seen.
But not liking yourself for the reasons you gave is stupid. Sorry, but it is.
You're short, so what. A lot of people are, it doesn't make you a bad person.
You're single. So what. It's not a reason to hate yourself. Plenty of people are single. That's not a bad thing.
Plenty of people don't have a good career. So what? Most of the world doesn't.
If you judge yourself by other people's standards, you will never be happy. Hell, the people you are probably looking up to, those who are married with a 'good career'... they are probably more unhappy than you.
Some people do not want to have sex with someone who they know has sex with people that they just met.
Englteachted:
He thought he was trapping her then he realized he was the one being trapped
Viki87:
He started touching my body on our first real date(It was a second date to him). So it's weird that he cared my past.
Stiggs:
When you said that Vicki it reminded me of a friend who picked up a ladyboy in Thailand but didn't realize until he put his hand up the miniskirt.
Sometimes, there's a point where you realize you're just with the wrong person and it's time to leave.
* Not suggesting you have a p**** or anything, just that he decided you aren't his type.
Viki87:
@Stiggs, you are right, I feel sad but what can I do? I can do nothing but just let him go.
It's just so hard to find somone who really likes me.
Viki87:
Spider, I don't like myself that much sometimes. What do I have?
I am short, have no good career, have no husband. I stay at Shanghai Year after year without doing progress.
Stiggs:
Vicki.
A lot of people go through not liking themselves sometimes. That's normal from what I've seen.
But not liking yourself for the reasons you gave is stupid. Sorry, but it is.
You're short, so what. A lot of people are, it doesn't make you a bad person.
You're single. So what. It's not a reason to hate yourself. Plenty of people are single. That's not a bad thing.
Plenty of people don't have a good career. So what? Most of the world doesn't.
If you judge yourself by other people's standards, you will never be happy. Hell, the people you are probably looking up to, those who are married with a 'good career'... they are probably more unhappy than you.
Not everyone is an exhibitionist.
Stiggs:
He might have been worried a neighbor would film it and his wife would see it online.
So hard to understand why any guy gets put off by a woman who admits she behaves like a slut and doesn't care about being an exhibitionist, and yet at the same time she has a complete lack of self-confidence. HELP ME PLEASE, I am just a stupid foreigner who doesn't understand the wisdom of the ages as shown by China
Someone once said a woman should be a chef in the kitchen, a whore in the bedroom and a lady in the lounge, well at least you got one out of three, stay classy Vicki.
Haha, to be honest something similar happened to me in the past. After listening to her talking about her ex even in an intimate situation I somehow totally lost interest and felt hurt, there was a walk out as well. When you start a relationship you want to believe that you are the only one in that person's life, as naive as it may sound. The time for confessions comes later. People are judgmental, and revealing some details about your past should go on slowly.
uyengemololo:
We've been together for just a couple of days, so I don't even consider that as being in a relationship. Don't thinl about it and stress too much. You need not put so much pressure on yourself. What is gone is gone, jiu de bu qu, xin de bu lai.
Viki87:
I know. But I have feelings, I feel hurt and sad. Mine is similar, also just couple of days. Poor me. Almost every guy I dated would ditch me fast, I felt like I am unwanted. I feel that most guys can pull out from a relationship/dating fast.
Englteachted:
When you start a relationship you want to believe that you are the only one in that person's life
You must be Chinese.
