By pushing ur kids like this sure they will perform better in school and get better grades, although ur taking away their childhood. A child who never enjoyed his/her childhood will hit a wall in life where they will regret growing up too early and u will see them doin stupid things cuz of  their miserable childhood. Let the kids be kids, let them play, make mistakes, and learn from them as u dont want them making these mistakes later in life.Push them now and then for sure, but ur killing the child inside them way too early.

This is classic chinese poverty consciousness, it is based on fear rather than love of life. To be brainwashed by well-meaning but fearful parents with poverty consciousness destroys a person's happiness for life, the brainwashing is so thorough it is next to impossible to deactivate. This is even worse for aggressive parents who view the world as a gladiators filled arena. Not that PRC is the only place on earth to find these gladiator psychos, the historic poverty and half a century plus of political indoctrination of communism produces the greatest number. Nine out of ten of those wumaos who argue irrationally, screaming and kicking until death without an iota of morality or common sense belong to this category.

My older son recently got his SAT scores: 2370/2400

That's a good score score which puts him in the running for any university, including the ivies. My husband's first question was, "where did you lose the 30 points?"

So, yes, he has some Tiger Dad tendencies. He does believe in balance, though, and encourages the kids to have a social life and participate in team sports.

Even he would think the extra 4-5 hours of home study was over the top.

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I am lucky.. my wife is not a tiger mum.

But lol, from what I have seen, the Chinese system seems to demand it of parents. Our daughters cousin is a year older and goes to a government kintergarten. The parents seem to get as much homework as the 4 year old kid. And there seems to be a parent evening every fortnight. For a 4 year old !!!!

From what I can make out, there seems to be a separation between play/ social interaction and education. "Sit down and learn" sort of stuff rather than combining play with learning. I mean outside of school of course and parent child interaction. Something along the lines of " I pay the teacher to teach so its their job, not mine".

Ha ha... Except when it comes to food of course. Go for a meal and the parents will be found at the fish tanks/ animal cages teaching their kids all about what tastes better

you call your wife a tiger mother? If anything happens to you at home, we all know how that happened.