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Q: looking for language exchange

Hello there,

 

i would like to know if anyone is interested in language exchange.

 

I am located in Wuhan and kind of local, happy to help you sort out anything.

2 weeks 12 hours ago in  General  - Wuhan

 
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my experience of 'language exchange'

 

me: "i have just spent 1 hour helping you with your english, can we work on my Chinese?"

chinese person: "i am too busy now. i have to go"

me: ?????

 

happened twice so i have have refused to engage with any chinese person who asks for a 'language exchange' again, despite many saying 'you can trust me'

no, experience has told me that a chinese person saying 'you can trust me' has not any basis in reality because they have done nothing to prove they are trustworthy.

 

i suggest you advertise locally in a place in Wuhan, maybe a coffee shop where English speakers hang out for some sort of lessons.

'language exchange' is rarely that, as the Chinese person usually ends up giving nothing in return and it is all one-way

 

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my experience of 'language exchange'

 

me: "i have just spent 1 hour helping you with your english, can we work on my Chinese?"

chinese person: "i am too busy now. i have to go"

me: ?????

 

happened twice so i have have refused to engage with any chinese person who asks for a 'language exchange' again, despite many saying 'you can trust me'

no, experience has told me that a chinese person saying 'you can trust me' has not any basis in reality because they have done nothing to prove they are trustworthy.

 

i suggest you advertise locally in a place in Wuhan, maybe a coffee shop where English speakers hang out for some sort of lessons.

'language exchange' is rarely that, as the Chinese person usually ends up giving nothing in return and it is all one-way

 

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Stop being cheap and pay 150 hourly or find a couple of Chinese friends who also want to learn English and split the cost

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I have had both good an bad experiences with language exchange. Most of the good ones were with people with whom I was already friends I will say that. Often times I would experience something similar to what Blondi_ said.

 

However, through persistence and refusal to let people use me as a language teacher, I found people who were great language partners and we mutually benefited. 

 

I am nowhere close to Wuhan, or I'd help you out. But I'd say your best bet would be to go to a university there and try to A) NATURALLY make friends with some foreigners or B) put an add up saying you're searching for a language partner (in English and Chinese).

 

If you want a language partner, make sure its a partnership and not a one way street that's all I have to say.

 

good luck with the search!

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Gogojuice, good luck with your search, I hope you find someone to help you with your English.

 

The thing is though, language exchanges are never very popular with foreigners - they just don't seem to work.

 

But, have a look through this website here... there are a few posts about language exchanges.

 

wuhanexpat.com

 

You might find something useful, or better, social activities where you can meet foreign friends and practice English

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I hereby officially volunteer for Language Exchange duty.*
*provided you are living and of the female persuasion

Today's topic: The Pros and Cons of Threesome when she is gf's bff

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Gogojuice exchange

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A few guys are asking this question on this site. Go to a school. If you want sex, there are lots of "Amoi" places for only a 100 rmb.

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I am with Blondie on this.

 

In my limited experience, when a woman asks for language exchange, it pretty much means her parents have invested in her, they want payback, and they tell her to get out there and get a foreign husband.

 

Blondie is 100% correct.

 

 

 

 

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to the OP, 

you say you were a student abroad.

when you were abroad and you just wanted to relax with your friends, speaking Chinese, maybe after a long day studying/working, how would you have felt if some stranger was trying to join your activity for their benefit, regardless of what you wanted to do.

once or twice might be fine, on occasion, but when it is every time you are out for the evening and locals don't leave you alone, you can understand why it becomes irritating.

so people get tired of having to do what local want them to do all the time 

 

Rhetorical question - is the free time of foreigners of so little value that it is ok for Chinese people to insist they stop what they are doing for your benefit and wants?

 

Foreigners for the most part are not unfriendly, but we also need our free time to relax and unwind, without being expected to perform and jump through hoops at the whim of a random passing local.

 

if you really want to practice your english, find a sport that both you and foreigners can take part in.

where i am there are foreigner/Chinese amateur football leagues (and other sports leagues) where people can socialize and exercise together without feeling like the main purpose is for the Chinese to learn/practice their english.

bottom line - people don't like being used, especially in their free time.

 

i am sure you will find what you are looking for, but remember that you are asking people for a favour, and they may not always be happy to abandon what they are doing (it could be something more important to them) just because you want them to.

Blondie_:

lol Marcos

it only took you 7 minutes to give me a down-thumb. Should i be scared that you will search for me and follow me online, because that's not a creepy thing to do, right?  

 

what a winner !!!

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iWolf:

Nice one Blondie. A well balanced comment. Have a thumb from the wolf. And i agree, it's not creepy at all that a self-professed internet stalker is sniffing around the digital bushes trying to peek in your window while he beats the bishop.

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Blondie_:

@iWolf, 

apparently i am a depressed racist redneck from America/Britain who should take all the BS/harassment i encounter with a smile on my face 'because i am a guest in China'

 

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PulSartre:

Blondie, on of the upvotes is mine too. BTW. I am sorry for you going through so much harassment in China. Reading through your answers on this topic, I felt at times rage and disgust. I can't but be angry at the behavior of those people around you. I will come later with a rather better comment. Probably quite late, but just don't lose heart at all. If you eventually return home, you will gather all good sides of this experience, and the trash will be at its right spot. I know it, because I lived and worked in China. I know I end up keeping the good about people. I wish you remember the best of your life in China. 

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Blondie_:

@PulSartre

I was well advised by my predecessor on what to expect, and thankfully i have a well developed sense of humour to laugh at the daily absurdities/stupidity here. (but not to their faces)

in a work-place that wants to be seen as modern and embracing 'global' attitudes and be accepted and a good place to work, it is stuck firmly in a 19th century power and attitude dynamic.

 

most of the Chinese women here equally dislike the casual sexism and misogyny that is evident on a daily basis, but are afraid to speak out for fear of harming their futures (both career and matrimonial).

for me, no amount of hinting or diplomatic responses made a difference, to i am not afraid at this stage to cut through the false BSing of 'keeping face' and call a spade a spade.

I don't care about calling these things out, as I want to be able to do my job properly.

 

it just really ticks me off at the level of childishness and head-in-the sand attitude of grown adults who seem to think that possessing a smart phone and expensive clothes is all it takes to be successful human being.

But i am not going to change the ingrained attitude of a country - if i can make one Chinese person reflect on how they treat their colleagues, i will have been successful in making a change.

 

'When in Rome.......' ? not if it is an obviously wrong way to treat other people.

 

wink

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Gogojuice:

chill man, i am sorry for whatever bad feelings you had in china

 

i disagree some assumptions that you made. can you not put people into one category,.

for sure there are people out there that have done things like you said in the process of language exchange. would that mean everyone looking for language exchange is the same?

 

plus the whole language thing is based on mutual interest. where is your idea of me asking for a favor coming from

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Blondie_:

on the contrary gogojuice, i suggest you read all of my comment before attributing negative feelings to me about my experiences in China.

 

i find many people are easily offended here if i don't suddenly give ecstatic opinions about china.

 

and yes, you are asking for a favour - you want foreigners to help you with your english indecision

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